The reason that AOL is showing a Virginia IP address is because they are using IP addresses that were assigned to them by ARIN and resolve back to their headquarters. This is sloppy on AOL's part, but it happens. When the got the IP addresses they neglected to fill out where the servers were located. While not all of AOL's IP addresses resolve back to Virginia, many do.
I agree with what every one else said, dump AOL and use one of the Canadian ISP's.